My wish List, AKA, what makes Mistress a very happy camper

Normally, I do not do the wish list thing for various reasons 1) some see it as superficial and greedy and 2) I usually end up buying half of my wish lists anyway.

But since the holiday of giving is upon us and I do get a lot of subs who would love to spoil me but never know what to get.

Well here is your chance to spoil me, knowing that you gave the perfect gift.

Want to spoil me rotten, I have a few items that I have been eyeing. Not sure if you can afford it but you want to show your effection? Not to worry, there is something that I enjoy that will not hurt too much (unless you want it to hurt ;)

Not sure if you will be able to see me before the holiday? Not even in this state/continent? You can mail it to my PO Box, which is located
in the contact page of my website

Happy shopping and seasons greetings!

My Wish list



Innotek electric lap dog trainer


Gift cards to bliss spas (any denomination)


Gift cards to Bloomingdales (any denomination)


Gift cards to Amazon.com (any denomination)


Gift cards to Sanrio (any denomination)


Stockroom wish list for Katya Von Calder


Agent Provocateur wish list for Katya Von Calder

HW Design wish list for Katya Von Calder

Other odds and ends

Polymorphe victorian corset-black, size 26

Polymorphe catsuit-semi transparent blue, size medium

Cocoon Inflatable catsuit-size extra large, black or transparent

Cocoon latex polish

Blackstyle inflatable mitts

Blackstyle rubber wrist to neck restraints

Blackstyle rubber wrist restraints

Blackstyle rubber bondage belt-size M/L

Blackstyle rubber resucitator with breathing bag

Blackstyle rubber belts-I want 5 belts in these lengths ; 53 inches, 45 inches, 37 inches, 30, inches and 30 inches.


Heels and Boots (I love them both!)

Topshop Persia Lack Back Leather This High Boots-size 6.5


Topshop Badu Stretch Buckle Boots-size 6.5


Topshop Attitude Black Block Wooden Platform Ankle Boots-size 6.5


Christian Louboutin Cathay heels-size 36


Christian Louboutin Bianca heels-size 36


Christian Louboutin Gazolina heels-size 36


Christian Louboutin Altadama heels-size 36


Christian Louboutin Lady heel-size 36


Christian Louboutin prive heels-size 36


Christian Louboutin Margot heels-size 36


Christian Louboutin Very Prive heels-size 36


I'm getting all giddy just thinking of the holidays....now off to make that gingerbread dungeon :)

It's moments such as these that put a smile on my face

Below is a quick review of a submissive who I had the pleasure of playing with. It was his first time meeting me and he was visiting from the UK. His love for latex was overshadowed only by his strong desire to please. Needless to say, I had a wonderful time enjoying his servitude. I am posting this review to share with you all.

Enjoy!

This was the first time i visited Mistress Katya, but after looking through her website and reading past reviews of a few lucky people, i knew she was just who i had been looking for.
After making my initial contact via email, explaining my interests and then following her precise instructions to the letter, i found myself standing outside her studio.
I know from past experiences with other mistresses that sometimes pictures on websites can be misleading, i was very happy to see that Mistress Katya was as stunning in real life as she is in her pictures.
After a quick chat with Mistress about what i liked and disliked and why i liked certain things, my 2 hour session began...........
I will not go into the specifics of my session, however it was a pleasure to find out that Mistress knew exactly what she was doing at all times and that i had utmost faith in her skills and care.
My love of rubber bondage and total enclosure were more than catered for with her selection of items for the session, a few were new to me and now reside on my “try again” list.
Alas my session came to an end far too quick for my liking, but not without Mistress showing me who was incharge with a little twist of a dial, i believe i may have jumped a foot high, if not for the fact i was tied down at the time.
After i cleaned up and made myself presentable for the outside world, we continued to chat about this and that, this was a pleasure in itself as Mistress Katya is wonderful to talk to.
Now that i am back home in the UK, i find i think about my next trip to NY with relish.

The internet and the monster within

When I first starting in Pro-Domination, websites were a guilty pleasure. Most advertising was done in publications such as Screw, DDI, and Dominant Mystique Magazines. If you had a website, you were one a notch higher on the advancement ladder. Fetish films were longer then 5 minutes and on VHS tapes (remember that?) and indulging in your visual perversions required a late night trip to the back room video section of the local sex shop. There was no Niteflirt, Clips4sale or webcam sessions. It was real time, in the flesh. It was the fantasy turned into reality.

Dommes were known by their craft. The scene consisted of legendary ladies, with years of experience. They wore leather, corsets, latex. chain mail. They embodied Domination. Subs were more respectful in their inquiries to meet. Yes, there were wankers but those who did call, even the wankers, had the fantasy of serving a Dominant woman first, followed by incorporating their fetishes to achieve that goal. For the most part, deposits were not needed. Most who called were genuine in their desire to serve and would show up. Those who didn't were kept on file and we knew not to bother with them again. The houses of Domination were legends within themselves. The oldest Dungeon in NYC at that time, Angel Sterns, was 20 years going strong when I first came into this scene. The Dommes in these houses were legendary as well, spending years honing their skills.

Overall, it was a good time to be a Domme. It was a good time to be a sub. As the internet began to bloom, so did the scene. Websites replaced magazine publications, making the Domme of your dreams more accessible. Fetish porn was now available through member websites. Now you didn't need to go to your local porn shop in the witching hours, you can just download the porn to your computer. Quick, discreet and at your leisure. Grab your dick and double click. Not ready to take the plunge to see a Domme just yet? Now you call her and talk about your fantasies for a reasonable tribute. Online forums, praising the Female Dominant were soon created, allowing a much larger form of communication between Domme and subsmissives. Overall, it was a good time to be a part of the scene.

And then came the internet. But I said the internet is a good thing, so aren't I contradicting myself?

No, and I will explain why.

As with everything in the world, there needs to be moderation. The internet is no different. As Dommes discovered the many different options the internet offered to make themselves more accessible, and men discovered the different options to meet their submissive needs, it also attracted those who seen the scene as a easy money maker as it put the scene into the mainstream spotlight. It wasn't long before the video market became saturated with mom and pop video companies, hoping to make a quick buck. Women of all ages, in hopes of living large by releasing their inner bitch and commanding men to offer their paychecks to them in the hopes of buying Louis Vitton bags for every day of the week. New houses of Domination popped up practically overnight. Just hired scantily clad and barely legal girls, holding whips in their hands, posing pretty in hopes that the horny male sub will overlook the fact that they don't know how to use the whip by keeping them distracted by flaunting their semi naked bodies.

There was no discretion or objection of fetishes. At these houses, all Dommes offered whatever you were willing to pay for. Want to blow a goat while fondling a monkey's scrotum and get fucked in the ass with a chainsaw? Sure, we can do that. Want one of the pretty girls to sit on your face while she offers a sensual "tease and denial" with your penis? Sure we can do that as well. It didn't matter if you were a disrespectful, woman hating asshat, if you had the money, they would indulge in whatever you did.

So how did this create a monster?

Simple-combine one part mainstream spotlight, one part of stunted personal interaction with other humans due to the technology age coming to prime-human interaction replaced by emails, websites, videos, text messages, instant messages, networking sites, etc. Add a sprinkle of fledgling Dommes who don't know any better and believe this is a way to obtain easy money in the pocket, the men who devalue the Dominant woman and the women who allow it to happen, top it off with the moneymakers looking to make a quick buck as other markets have dried out and garnish with a suffering economy and a competitive market within itself and there you have it. The monster. The blame is placed on everyone, in varying degrees. We all (including myself) took advantage of certain advancements that the internet offered but it is how far we push it that determines where we place the blame. If you allow someone to behave in the above mentioned, then you have no one to blame for the downfall for this scene but yourself.

So how do we fix the monster that we created? That is a good question...if you come up with one, let me know.

What a predicament

Have you ever had one of those moments where you are so conditioned in your thoughts/actions and your body just kind of steps up to the plate? A moment where instincts take over? And in a good way?

I had one of those moments earlier this morning.

The sub was lying on the bed, hooded and bound. Soft, woven hemp rope constricted his ankles, calves, knees, thighs and wrists. A rope beginning at his wrists and ending as his ankles made sure that his arms were to stay put. He was helpless, his freedom removed at my discretion. He was at my mercy.

However, his manhood was exposed and free to move. I couldn't have that, especially since the rest of him was neatly contained. What is the point of removing a sub's freedom to move if their manhood is exposed to freely rub against his satin panties in an act of unbridled pleasure?

I decided that I wasn't going to make it easy for him.

In my mind, I thought "predicament bondage-arrange it for him to be the bearer of his own pain". Excellent idea. This is where the conditioning comes into place.

My intent was to weave the rest of his cock and balls into the rope that was holding his wrists and ankles in place so that if he moves, it will pull his cock with it...and in a bad way.

I used thin, boot lace rope-wrapped snugly around the balls, over and over until they grow taught and sensitive. I enjoy when balls are like this as it makes even the slightest touch the most intense sensation. After that, it happened to quickly. Before I knew it, I wove his cock and balls so perfectly into the rope. Nothing was off center or missing a crucial knot. He moves in an effort to test out my handiwork and see if I succeeded in my intent.... and it did exactly what I previously envisioned. The submissive, bound and controlled, painfully trained by his own sexual urges. At this moment, I was merely the voyeur. All I had to do was step back and watch.

It was so perfect, I should have taken a photo of it.

Mistress Katya traveling to Philly and the DC area in August!

I am planning a visit to the Philly and D.C. areas in mid August. If you are in these areas and wanted to see me, now is your chance as I do not know when I will be back again. This is my first visit to the D.C. area so I am pretty excited.

If you are interested in meeting, then please complete the questionnaire form that is located on my website.

My exact travel dates will be posted soon-I am finalizing my travel arrangements.

Mistress Katya interview by Masocast!

I sit down with Masocast and we chat about my latex fetish, my childhood and how it paved the way to how I am today, relationships, letting myself loose, and my addiction to a certain round-faced asian cartoon cat. Click here to listen. Please also donate to keep this going. It's a great service for pervs like you and I.


My interview on Masocast